Reasons for Issues in Our Lives

When an issue comes up in your life it is beneficial to look at the reasons to hold onto it, particularly if it repeats. What do you get by having it? If you have chronic money problems, partners that don't work out, an unfulfilling career, a sense that you sabotage yourself, or that others are always messing up your life, you have a pattern. We hold onto issues when there are secondary gains. One is for attention. If a person doesn't feel loved or valued they can create a health, financial, or other issue that causes others to show concern and sympathy. If they let the issue go away they would lose the support. It could feel better to have the issue and the support than to release both. When we see we are in this pattern we can look for healthier ways to get our needs met for attention and affection. Another reason to hold onto an issue is as a distracter from what is really bothering us. If the marriage is dead, you never pursue the career you long for and are now stuck in a job you hate, you feel lost and alone, the pain of losing someone that died or left, etc., you might create a condition to distract yourself. I often see heart pain turned into conditions that cause physical pain. Look for the emotions and where they are actually coming from. He left me for another woman can turn into a debilitating illness. It is easier to feel sick than to feel the pain of him leaving. The flip side are the reasons not to let it go, such as no more attention or distraction, which leaves us to deal with what is, and with all the emotions. When I work with a client I make sure they are ready to let it go. I release all the reasons to hold on to the issue and all the reasons not to let it go. That frees up the issue.Of course there are also times when we have physical issues because our soul wanted to experience it for a reason.